Bad habits are aptly named for the fact that they tend to cause problems for ourselves and those around us.
What are the bad habits that have the most devastating effects on a relationship? Here are 7 of the worst ones.
1. Treating your partner like a project. Constantly trying to change your partner and mold them into the person you want them to be is a toxic habit that could destroy your relationship. Think about how you would feel if your partner was doing the same to you. It’s a selfish motive to stay in a relationship with the belief that you can change your partner into someone else.
2 Making your fights public. By neglecting to keep your arguments within a private sphere, you are embarrassing yourself and your partner, in addition to drawing unwanted negative attention onto your relationship. Not only will this not solve whatever it is you’re fighting about, but your partner could become completely repulsed by this childish behavior and decide to leave you.
3 Criticizing close friends and family. Regardless of how irritating family and friends can sometimes be, when you criticize your partner’s friends and family, you are also criticizing your partner. A partner who feels like you are constantly bashing their loved ones may grow to resent you.
These people have been in your partner’s lives for a while and are likely not going anywhere, so you might as well learn to like them or at least tolerate them
4 Prolonging an argument. Dragging an argument out even longer than it has to be is seriously just a waste of time. This is when you’ve already discussed everything about a prior argument and nothing is left on the table, but your partner constantly wants to rehash it all over again. This is simply unnecessary and doesn’t help the relationship move forward.
5 Avoiding important conversations. When you know there’s an important issue to be discussed but you avoid it, you are only giving your partner more reasons to feel uneasy about you and the situation in general. Sometimes, if someone doesn’t clear the air, one partner will spend too much time thinking that the other one doesn’t care. This can cause an even bigger blowout, and might even be the kiss of death for your relationship.
6 Comparing your partner to your ex. Constantly comparing your current partner to your ex is a glaring sign that you’re not over your ex.
And if your partner knows that you’re always making mental comparisons, they’ll start to feel like they can’t be allowed to be themselves.
7 Letting yourself go. If all your partner ever sees is your unkempt appearance and your general disregard for hygiene, they may start to question why they were even attracted to you in the first place.
Bad habits can do more than just annoy your partner. Some of these common slip ups can drive your relationship into the deep end.